Yeah that was my first reaction too. If you bring her along during the anvil of the void mission, caridin remembers her. and then we have her "loyalty mission" in the Deep roads. Hehehe, not to mention Oghrens comments when they find out! Again, great pic. Hope we get to see some golems in inquisition!
You can find out way sooner just by talking to her enough, There's a part where she remarks about the way you put the crystals on her body and how "slimming" they are from that point I know she mentions something about being a female.
Shale looks like a dude in Dragon Age. The whole hilarity of her character is that you're surprised when you find out she's a woman. Not to mention I used a direct reference image from the game for this image.
So the question should be have you even played Dragon Age?